A Farewell Letter To My Married Sister ❤️
Because we were roommates for 17 years…
Author’s note: This letter was originally written in November 2022, and no, this is in no way a eulogy, haha. But if it is, then it is in fact one to a very much living person who happens to turn 26 today🎉. Rare and serendipitous, she also shares the same birthday with her husband. Remember this article, inspired by her and her special person? Yes, I am again inspired to publish another article in nostalgic memory of her today.
Hey Temi,
It’s really happening. FINALLY. I know it’s happening all so fast and I can only imagine how you must feel…Well, I hope that you feel happy and hope that you feel blessed to be getting married, and to be doing so to a mighty good man.
All those years we fought the fact that we had to be roommates…only if I had known, I’d have asked for more time. Now you’d be moving into your own house and rooming with a man. So much for all the home training 😂.
I pray that as you begin this new phase of life, God will go before you. He will give you the grace to be the best spouse and help-meet to your husband. I pray that He will give you even more grace to accept the love that your husband has to give you…and I pray that you finally find peace and rest in your new home. I pray that as you grow and grow older with Onyeka, that the sweet wine of marriage will never run dry in your home.
My whole body, soul and spirit wishes you good marriage, Temi and I pray that God grants my heart desire for a loving and peaceful home for you. I ward off every lingering generational spirit of disharmony and distrust and I welcome you into a new era dear sister. Welcome to Your Rehoboth and welcome to your new home.
Remember though, to nurture your marriage. Not in the way you might be used to or might have been exposed to but in the way God desires. I hope you learn to submit one to another and to treat each other with respect. Remember too that respect is not given but earned and also that people cannot hear themselves over loud voices.
Most importantly, I pray for GRACE for the both of you to embody and embrace the purpose/call of God over your lives. Grace to support each other and to build/raise a family after God’s own heart.
Over the years, you’ve become my friend and a voice of reason in my life, even in ways I didn’t know, and I’d miss you very much. Please stay in touch… and please don’t get too married that I become too single for you and I’d try not to get too single that you become too married for me. I believe you understand that 😂 and cheers to a happy marriage, for the rest of your life🥂
Much love,
Your one and only big sis, Tee 1 😘
Epilogue:
Her wedding day was beautiful. I still never got around to posting wedding pictures/videos on either of my Instagrams because I felt like holding onto the memories would make it last longer (Edit: I finally made a reel recounting the day and more!)
There are also pictures/videos — here, here, and here — of them celebrating one another today; my chin might just break from all the smiling. Then this one again from last year! I’m drowning in all their love, and I need no saving. But I’m saving all of the memories in this one article…for me, for them, and possible future niece(s) and nephew(s).
And here’s a tissue, 🧻, for when your smiling gives way to a tear.
Happy Birthday once again, my beautiful sister and brother-in-law❤️
Like I prayed for Onyeka earlier today — The Light Manifesto, may your light continue to shine brighter, brighter and brighter till the coming of Jesus, and may nations come to your rising. TEMITÒPÉ, may your life continually bring praise, glory and honour to His name. Tee 2, may we continue to be epitomes of purposeful womanhood to our three beautiful younger sisters (Tee 3–5), and may your prayers never go unanswered…in Jesus name, Amen!
Also, you’ve almost been married a year now, and it couldn’t be going any better! The God who took us from the days of being each other’s nemesis to these days of a wholesome sister-love, may His name forever be praised.
My dear confidant and sister, I love you❤.
Lastly, for my fellow hopeless romantics in waiting:
And they lived happily ever after…
